Good Evening Babes in Blog Land...Why the buzz? Why Volume 2? and why tonight?
It has been one hell of a week! I broke a tooth, a perfectly good one that was just minding its' business until I tried having a 'healthy' snack and bit into an almond.
During my tooth repair I was being bombarded on my Blackberry from one major pain in my ass and a second fairly big pain in my ass! I do not like to put a certain group of people in one category and forget about them. I have tons of good friends who are stay at home moms that aren't crazy, but I am dealing with a few of them in one of the organizations I volunteer for and they are nothing short of freaking crazy. I have one woman I am dealing with who was asked by a male committee member why an event cost $5.00 per person. She responded with an effing 3 page dissertation and then sent a follow up email on the subject and was shocked when this man didn't respond! Really now? are we really surprised?? I know all you married woman in blog land put in your profiles how wonderful your husbands are, but I think we all know for the most part if they were faced with a 3 page email from this woman, his eyes would be glazed over by the second sentence. It is just a lot of "wah wah er wi wer wa" you know the sound of the teacher on the Peanuts? It is what it sounds like. Now granted I have not proved this scientifically but I do think I am on to something.
Next up is the biotch who called me at home during the day when I was working. Yes, it is hard to believe for some people that when I say I work from home full time that I ACTUALLY work. I told someone that I needed to go and get back to work and she said, "Yeah, go back to work, I'm just a stay at home mom and your job is so important." Well guess what boitch? It is cause it pays my freaking mortgage!
Next up...a friend request on Facebook. Yes, sounds innocent enough right? Well not if it is your ex-boyfriend from High School who among other things threatened to burn my house down back in the day!
(Now I realize I may be disclosing WAY too much info but it is my blog, my rules. If you don't like to watch a train wreck, now is the time to look away.) Well, he sends me a freaking friend request. Now I dated him for 2 1/2 very difficult years and was finally able to break it off with him a few months in to my freshman year of college. It is crazy, this was 25 years ago and in the past 3 hours since I got that tool's friend request I keep remembering things...my first memory when I realized I was in an abusive relationship was on Christmas my senior year of high school. I had been at his house all day and wanted to go home, his family was weird and his mother cooked the worst turkey. Oh surprise, he didn't want me to go home so the crap starts outside in front of his house. Me trying to leave, him stopping me. Keep in mind I am 5'8" but he was 6'3". I finally got away from him and I started yelling at him. I couldn't believe this was happening to me. I was yelling and swearing, swearing a lot. The police came, there was a tussle with my boyfriend, his brothers and the police, yes memories for the scrapbook for sure. When all was said and done and the police had the situation under control I just wanted to get out of there. As I was leaving his father said to me,"Young lady, I can tolerate a lot of things but I can't tolerate swearing from a lady." You could have knocked me over with a feather... I should have ran, but that is not what a lot of women and young girls do who are in relationships that are abusive. I heard from my boyfriend's family that he had a seizure disorder and that is why he would get violent, "he couldn't help it." The worse thing I could remember was he would squeeze my face. Even the thought of it know makes me so angry now, something I had really forgotten about.
I was once dragged across a highway and often went (unwillingly)on suicide rides when he thought I was going to break up with him, he thought we should die together. He was a coward and was just trying to use fear to keep me.
The night he called and said he was going to burn our house down, was the night he dragged me by my hair across a divided 4 lane road. The police came, they took him in to custody and I had my mom's car and went home. The phone range and my mother had picked up the phone since back in 1985, there were no cell phones and when our phone rang at 2am, everyone in the house knew it, she heard what he had said to me on the other line. Obviously she called the police, the police were surprised since he apparently made that phone call as the one call he was allowed by the police!! I wish I could say that was the end of our relationship but it wasn't. It went on until I was strong enough, far enough away from him and felt safe that he wouldn't come after me.
There is a happy ending...though I did kiss a few more frogs, I have never been in another abusive relationship. I am married to a great guy and have never looked back, at least until that friend request earlier this evening. I don't plan on looking back again and will say an extra prayer of thanks to whoever was looking down on me during those dark days.
I hope this wasn't a buzz kill for anyone, but I sure feel better!